in Munich
Couples therapy & relationship counselling
Professional support for couples, polyamorous relationships and individuals — in Munich-Sendling and online
- Who: Couples, individuals, monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, friendships.
- Focus: Understanding patterns, clarifying roles, improving communication.
- Approach: Counselling, not psychotherapy – practical tools for real-life situations.
- Fees: Detailed information available on our pricing page here.
What you can expect from couples therapy
Many people search for couples therapy. We often prefer the term counselling — or even training. Why? Because you are not “ill” just because things are not going smoothly. At 
this is not a repair shop for broken relationships. It is a conscious decision to actively shape your relationship and your life.
Often, the tools you have relied on so far reach their limits in new phases of life. We help you update your communication and relationship dynamics. Taking responsibility for your time and energy is a sign of strength — not failure.
for your everyday life
Our practical tools
We don’t just talk about problems — we develop solutions you can actually use after your session. This includes:
- Pattern interruption: We identify your “autopilots” (who tends to attack, who withdraws?) and develop stop-signals for escalating situations.
- Translating needs: We train how to express needs in a way that can actually be heard – without triggering defensiveness.
- Role clarification & mental load: We use tools to distribute responsibility more fairly, so your relationship doesn’t turn into a purely organisational system.
- Perspective shift: We create space to rediscover the positive intentions behind difficult behaviours.
Typical topics we work on
In our practice in Munich-Sendling or online, we support you with:
- recurring misunderstandings and emotional exhaustion
- challenges in parenthood and the loss of connection as a couple
- decision-making processes: what comes next? (stay, change or separate respectfully)
- transitions and life changes (career, relocation, midlife shifts)
It doesn’t have to be perfect — just “good enough”
Our goal is not self-optimisation or finding someone to blame. It’s about making sure both sides are heard.
Often, recurring “favourite problems” take over — like an unwanted guest — and hide what is still working.
What we often see in counselling:
- Expectations vs. reality: We help you make unspoken expectations visible before they turn into disappointment.
- Asking instead of assuming: Agreement is not the default. We train curiosity as the most effective alternative to blame.
- Realism creates relief: Relationships are allowed to have edges and imperfections. Sometimes the solution is not doing more – but consciously letting things be.
Who is this for?
Seeking support is a smart step if you:
- feel misunderstood or stuck in repetitive cycles
- have lost connection in everyday family life
- want to model something different for your children
- are navigating a relationship with ADHD or autism
- are considering opening your relationship or processing an affair
„Love is making sure nothing gets broken.“
Monika Helfer
Hotel Matze