Frequently asked questions (FAQ)
Everything about process, costs and why we offer counselling instead of therapy.
Getting started & process
No long introductions: In the initial consultation, we get an overview of your current situation and see whether the fit is right — both in terms of chemistry and expertise. You will usually already receive a first impulse or a structure you can work with. Afterwards, we decide together whether and how often we want to continue.
No. The beziehungsbude. is a place where you can come exactly as you are.
You do not need to prepare anything, bring notes or complete exercises beforehand. We work with what is present in the moment.
This is often mainly a question of terminology. Many people search for “couples therapy”, while we use the term counselling or training because you are not “ill” just because things are not going smoothly.
At the beziehungsbude., we do not provide medical diagnosis or treatment. We focus on relationship dynamics and current options for action rather than only analysing the past.
Yes. This is one of our main areas of expertise. We understand that neurodivergent brains communicate differently and have different needs when it comes to structure.
We support you in shaping your relationship in a way that fits your brain, without one person constantly feeling “wrong”.
Absolutely. In many cases, it is helpful to first clarify your own patterns, needs and perspective individually.
This often changes the dynamics more effectively than trying to convince someone else to join.
In Germany, couples therapy and counselling is not covered by health insurance because it is not classified as treatment of a mental disorder. It is a private service focused on your quality of life and your ability to navigate relationships.
Both. We work in our space at Schöttlstraße 12 or via video call.
Online sessions are often more practical in everyday life, save time and allow you to join from a familiar environment.
“We agree to disagree.” If an agreement is not possible or not yet possible, we support you in finding a way to deal with differences in perspectives and behaviour. There is often no right or wrong — but there can be a way of handling the situation that works for both sides.
Mediation is particularly useful in conflicts that feel stuck or where communication has broken down.
It is especially relevant when the relationship between the parties is important and should be preserved — for example as parents, partners or business partners. In short: when you need someone to take responsibility for the process so you can focus on the content.
No. Mediation is voluntary. If someone participates only because they feel forced, it is unlikely that a sustainable solution will be reached. Each party can end the process at any time.
At the end, there is usually a written agreement. This is a shared commitment.
For legal binding force (for example in divorce-related matters), it can serve as a basis for notarisation. The outcome is developed jointly and not imposed by the mediator.
In private contexts, the parties usually share the costs equally. In business contexts, the company often covers the costs. Some legal insurance policies also cover mediation — it is worth checking.
Yes. Online mediation often works very well because it creates distance and reduces travel. We offer mediation in Munich-Mittersendling or via video call.
This depends on the complexity of the situation. In many cases, 3 to 5 sessions of 90 minutes are sufficient to clarify the main points. However, this cannot be guaranteed in advance.
Mediation is voluntary in both participation and outcome. You develop your own solutions. This is usually faster, less expensive and less stressful than legal proceedings. There is no judgement, no enforcement and no evidence procedure.
No. Many people come to us while waiting for an assessment or when they strongly suspect they might be neurodivergent. We do not provide diagnosis, but we work with what is there, regardless of labels.
Often, relief is followed by a period of crisis. People look back at their life and reinterpret past experiences. We support you in integrating this new understanding into your identity and adapting your everyday life so it fits your brain.
Absolutely. Many neurodivergent relationships are “double-divergent”.
This often creates deep understanding, but can also intensify challenges such as sensory overload or organisation. We help you find ways to support each other without overwhelming each other.
We do not focus on discipline.
Instead, we look at practical solutions: what actually works for your brain? The goal is to reduce mental load instead of adding more systems that do not stick.
This is a common dynamic. The focus is not on proving anything medically, but on understanding different perspectives. We support you in shifting from blame (“you are lazy”) to understanding (“your brain works differently”).
People often try to change their partner when they feel emotionally insecure or hold strong expectations about relationships. Psychological research shows that unmet relationship ideals are often linked to frustration and controlling behaviour.
Unmet expectations can trigger feelings of rejection, loss of control, or insecurity. People with insecure attachment patterns are often especially sensitive to emotional
distance or lack of reassurance.
Controlling behaviour is usually more closely related to fear and insecurity than to love. Over time, attempts to control a partner often damage trust, closeness, and emotional safety.
Emotional safety develops through trust, communication, conflict regulation, and the ability to tolerate uncertainty — not through having every emotional need perfectly fulfilled by a partner.
Couple therapy can help when conflicts become repetitive, emotional distance increases, or relationship patterns repeatedly lead to conflict, withdrawal, or controlling dynamics.
Paar- & Beziehungsberatung
This is often mainly a question of terminology. Many people search for “couples therapy”, while we use the term counselling or training because you are not “ill” just because things are not going smoothly.
At the beziehungsbude., we do not provide medical diagnosis or treatment. We focus on relationship dynamics and current options for action rather than only analysing the past.
Yes. This is one of our main areas of expertise. We understand that neurodivergent brains communicate differently and have different needs when it comes to structure.
We support you in shaping your relationship in a way that fits your brain, without one person constantly feeling “wrong”.
Absolutely. In many cases, it is helpful to first clarify your own patterns, needs and perspective individually.
This often changes the dynamics more effectively than trying to convince someone else to join.
In Germany, couples therapy and counselling is not covered by health insurance because it is not classified as treatment of a mental disorder. It is a private service focused on your quality of life and your ability to navigate relationships.
Both. We work in our space at Schöttlstraße 12 or via video call.
Online sessions are often more practical in everyday life, save time and allow you to join from a familiar environment.
“We agree to disagree.” If an agreement is not possible or not yet possible, we support you in finding a way to deal with differences in perspectives and behaviour. There is often no right or wrong — but there can be a way of handling the situation that works for both sides.
Mediation & Konfliktklärung
No long introductions: In the initial consultation, we get an overview of your current situation and see whether the fit is right — both in terms of chemistry and expertise. You will usually already receive a first impulse or a structure you can work with. Afterwards, we decide together whether and how often we want to continue.
No. The beziehungsbude. is a place where you can come exactly as you are.
You do not need to prepare anything, bring notes or complete exercises beforehand. We work with what is present in the moment.
This is often mainly a question of terminology. Many people search for “couples therapy”, while we use the term counselling or training because you are not “ill” just because things are not going smoothly.
At the beziehungsbude., we do not provide medical diagnosis or treatment. We focus on relationship dynamics and current options for action rather than only analysing the past.
Yes. This is one of our main areas of expertise. We understand that neurodivergent brains communicate differently and have different needs when it comes to structure.
We support you in shaping your relationship in a way that fits your brain, without one person constantly feeling “wrong”.
Absolutely. In many cases, it is helpful to first clarify your own patterns, needs and perspective individually.
This often changes the dynamics more effectively than trying to convince someone else to join.
In Germany, couples therapy and counselling is not covered by health insurance because it is not classified as treatment of a mental disorder. It is a private service focused on your quality of life and your ability to navigate relationships.
Both. We work in our space at Schöttlstraße 12 or via video call.
Online sessions are often more practical in everyday life, save time and allow you to join from a familiar environment.
“We agree to disagree.” If an agreement is not possible or not yet possible, we support you in finding a way to deal with differences in perspectives and behaviour. There is often no right or wrong — but there can be a way of handling the situation that works for both sides.
Mediation is particularly useful in conflicts that feel stuck or where communication has broken down.
It is especially relevant when the relationship between the parties is important and should be preserved — for example as parents, partners or business partners. In short: when you need someone to take responsibility for the process so you can focus on the content.
No. Mediation is voluntary. If someone participates only because they feel forced, it is unlikely that a sustainable solution will be reached. Each party can end the process at any time.
At the end, there is usually a written agreement. This is a shared commitment.
For legal binding force (for example in divorce-related matters), it can serve as a basis for notarisation. The outcome is developed jointly and not imposed by the mediator.
In private contexts, the parties usually share the costs equally. In business contexts, the company often covers the costs. Some legal insurance policies also cover mediation — it is worth checking.
Yes. Online mediation often works very well because it creates distance and reduces travel. We offer mediation in Munich-Mittersendling or via video call.
This depends on the complexity of the situation. In many cases, 3 to 5 sessions of 90 minutes are sufficient to clarify the main points. However, this cannot be guaranteed in advance.
Mediation is voluntary in both participation and outcome. You develop your own solutions. This is usually faster, less expensive and less stressful than legal proceedings. There is no judgement, no enforcement and no evidence procedure.
No. Many people come to us while waiting for an assessment or when they strongly suspect they might be neurodivergent. We do not provide diagnosis, but we work with what is there, regardless of labels.
Often, relief is followed by a period of crisis. People look back at their life and reinterpret past experiences. We support you in integrating this new understanding into your identity and adapting your everyday life so it fits your brain.
Absolutely. Many neurodivergent relationships are “double-divergent”.
This often creates deep understanding, but can also intensify challenges such as sensory overload or organisation. We help you find ways to support each other without overwhelming each other.
We do not focus on discipline.
Instead, we look at practical solutions: what actually works for your brain? The goal is to reduce mental load instead of adding more systems that do not stick.
This is a common dynamic. The focus is not on proving anything medically, but on understanding different perspectives. We support you in shifting from blame (“you are lazy”) to understanding (“your brain works differently”).
People often try to change their partner when they feel emotionally insecure or hold strong expectations about relationships. Psychological research shows that unmet relationship ideals are often linked to frustration and controlling behaviour.
Unmet expectations can trigger feelings of rejection, loss of control, or insecurity. People with insecure attachment patterns are often especially sensitive to emotional
distance or lack of reassurance.
Controlling behaviour is usually more closely related to fear and insecurity than to love. Over time, attempts to control a partner often damage trust, closeness, and emotional safety.
Emotional safety develops through trust, communication, conflict regulation, and the ability to tolerate uncertainty — not through having every emotional need perfectly fulfilled by a partner.
Couple therapy can help when conflicts become repetitive, emotional distance increases, or relationship patterns repeatedly lead to conflict, withdrawal, or controlling dynamics.
Einzelberatung & Neurodivergenz (ADHS/Autismus)
No. Many people come to us while waiting for an assessment or when they strongly suspect they might be neurodivergent. We do not provide diagnosis, but we work with what is there, regardless of labels.
Often, relief is followed by a period of crisis. People look back at their life and reinterpret past experiences. We support you in integrating this new understanding into your identity and adapting your everyday life so it fits your brain.
Absolutely. Many neurodivergent relationships are “double-divergent”.
This often creates deep understanding, but can also intensify challenges such as sensory overload or organisation. We help you find ways to support each other without overwhelming each other.
We do not focus on discipline.
Instead, we look at practical solutions: what actually works for your brain? The goal is to reduce mental load instead of adding more systems that do not stick.
“A lot of parents will do anything for their kids, except let them be themselves”
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